Feed the RIGHT Wolf - Get Your Self Talk In Check

A grandfather, a Native elder, came to his grandson, who was very anxious and depressed.  He said there is a constant battle between two wolves inside each person - one representing negative qualities like anger, greed, and fear, and the other representing positive:  love, kindness, and compassion. When the grandson asks which wolf wins, the elder responds, "The one you feed."

Self-talk is the way we speak to ourselves in our minds and hearts. It's like having a little conversation with yourself. Self-talk can be positive or negative, and it can have a big impact on how we feel and act. When we use positive self-talk, we think good things about ourselves and our abilities. This can help us feel more confident and happy. On the other hand, negative self-talk can make us feel sad, worried, or frustrated. Zig Ziglar spoke to self-talk in one of his classic inspiring talks to salespeople. He said to people you have to affirm yourself so say 30x everyday: "I like myself and I love my job." As someone working in Real Estate, and "Tent Making" (working in a trade/business to support ministry), I get it. Self-talk isn't for kid's: self-esteem, it is for ALL of us!

Positive self-talk is like giving ourselves a pep talk. We can say things like, "I can do it," "I am strong," or "I am smart." Others might speak more powerfully like "Choose Your Hard" or " Form your Habits - Your Habits Form You". When we talk to ourselves this way, it can help us believe in ourselves and feel more hopeful. It's important to be kind to ourselves and use words that make us feel good.

Negative self-talk, on the other hand, can make us feel bad about ourselves. We might say things like, "I'm not good enough," "I can't do it," or "I always mess up." When we talk to ourselves in this way, it can make us feel sad or worried. It's important to try to change these negative thoughts into positive ones.

Scriptures wisdom provides more insight. There are verses that talk about the power of our words and thoughts. In the book of Proverbs, chapter 18, verse 21, it says, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." This means that the words we say, even to ourselves, can have a big impact on our lives. Another verse from the book of Philippians, chapter 4, verse 8, says, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." This verse encourages us to focus on positive and good things, which can help us have positive self-talk.

It's important to practice using positive self-talk every day. We can start by paying attention to the things we say to ourselves and trying to change negative thoughts into positive ones. We can also use affirmations, which are positive statements we can repeat to ourselves to boost our confidence and mood. For example, we can say, "I am brave," "I am kind," or "I am loved."

By using positive self-talk and focusing on the good things, we can feel happier and more confident. It's like giving ourselves a little boost of encouragement whenever we need it. So, let's remember the power of our words and thoughts and choose to speak kindly to ourselves.

Self-talk is the way we speak to ourselves in our minds, and it can have a big impact on how we feel and act. Positive self-talk can help us feel more confident and happy, while negative self-talk can make us feel sad or worried. It's important to practice using positive self-talk every day and focus on the good things. Remember, our words and thoughts have power, so let's choose to use them for good. 

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